Renner’s fourth thing a husband should never do is this.
“Never tell your wife that you don’t have time for her. Even if your schedule is packed, look for time to be with her. She married you because she loves you and wants to be with you. When you consistently make time for everyone in your life except your wife, you are making avery big mistake. If needed, cancel something in your schedule so you can give attention to this most important relationship in your life.”
Years ago I made my life priorities these:
1 – First, love God and stay in close relationship with God.
2 – Love Linda next.
3 – Love my children.
4 – In fourth place is my job/work.
5 – all other things fall below #s 1-4.
I was once counseled to never let #4 or anything below it get ahead of #s 1 – 3. I have tried my best to do that. I find it a wonderful way to live. To live with priorities 1 through 3 solidly in place is to have a successful life. “Success,” in marriage, is coming to the end of your life and having your wife and children with you and love you, and you them. At that time all the other stuff and things one has accumulated in life and all the other accompishments of life fade into relative insignificance, which is their proper and actual place.
Focus and work on life’s most important things; viz., your relationships with God and spouse and family.
(Over a period of 37 years Linda and I have counseled several hundred marriages in a variety of situations ranging from “need a tune-up” to “in cardiac arrest.” While we have at times wondered if a certain marriage would make it, we admit to having never met a marriage that we thought could not be saved and made better.)