Discovering the Real Jesus in Monroe

I’m passionate about helping premarital couples enter into a marital covenant with God that will last a lifetime. There aren’t a lot of marriages like that happening, so I feel pretty intense about this. My experience is that nearly all premarital couples I work with desire a marriage that lasts a lifetime. In order to achieve this they need a lot of help, since it’s likely that they lack parents who stayed together and modeled a healthy marital relationship for them. The lack of this creates a lot of problems for people looking at getting married. They need help.

I love getting to know premarital couples. When we finally come to that moment where we’re standing before God and the man and woman are expressing vows to each other, I can say that I know these two people. That’s important to me.

In doing premarital counseling I have, for years, used the FOCCUS premarital inventory. Couples individually respond to statements like the examples below. The materials are sent in and, for a small fee, processed and returned to a Facilitator like myself. I get a packet of information that works like an MRI of the premarital couple’s relationship. It’s broken down into categories such as “Communication,” “Financial Issues,” “Family of Origin Issues,” and “Extended Family Issues.” In the premarital counseling sessions I work from the areas that have the least amount of agreement on the preferred answers.