Linda and I invite you to join us in January for 3 Nights of Marriage Strengthening!

WHEN: January 17, 24, 31

6 – 8 PM

WHERE: Redeemer Fellowship Church
5305 Evergreen
Monroe, Michigan

Sign up in the church lobby or by calling our office at 734-731-1709.

We’re working on hopefully providing babysitting. TBA.

We’ll be using the “I Love You More” video + workbook curriculum by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott.

Couples will need to purchase workbooks which accompany the videos: Here for men; here forwomen. ($8.99 apiece. If you cannot afford the workbooks please let me know.)

In I Love You More, a video-based study, Doctors Les and Leslie Parrott show you how the same forces that can chip away at a marriage can instead become the catalyst for new relational depth and richness–provided you make wise choices. Whether the problem is major or mild, you’ll learn how to transform nettlesome issues into loving opportunities.

We’ll do 2 17-minute sessions per evening. The topics are:

1. I Love You More, Session 1 “Love Is Not Enough”
In Session 1, “Love Is Not Enough,” you will discuss unrealistic expectations you brought into your marriage and discern how you can strengthen your marriage from conflicts.
2. I Love You More, Session 2 “Tackle This Problem First…and All Others Get Easier”
In Session 2, “Tackle this Problem First… and All Others Get Easier,” you will discuss attitudes that exist in your marriage and which ones need to be changed.
3. I Love You More, Session 3 “The Subtle Saboteurs of Every Marriage”
In Session 3, “The Subtle Saboteurs of Every Marriage,” you will discuss how busyness has crept into your marriage and learn how crabbiness can negatively impact your relationship.
4. I Love You More, Session 4 “How to Solve Any Problem in Five (not-so-easy) Steps”
In Session 4, “How to Solve Any Problem in Five (not-so-easy) Steps,” you will discover the five tools you can use to tackle problems of any kind and learn how to take responsibility in your relationship.
5. I Love You More, Session 5 “Joining Your Spirits Like Never Before”
In Session 5, “Joining Your Spirits Like Never Before,” you will discuss the difficulty in creating and maintaining spiritual connections and learn what you can do to bring more spiritual intimacy into your marriage.
6. I Love You More, Session 6 “The Good that Comes from a Problem-Solving Marriage”
In Session 6, “The Good that Comes from a Problem-Solving Marriage,” you will discern which blessing of marriage you most appreciate and what you appreciate about your marriage relationship and express how your marriage makes you happy.


Photo of a plaque I saw in Columbus, Ohio

“In 1941 at the age of twenty-six, [Thomas] Merton sought refuge in the Trappist monastery of Our Lady of Gethsemane. Kentucky, “in revolt against the meaningless confusion of a life in which there was so much activity, so much movement, so much useless talk, so much superficial and needless stimulation,” that he could not remember who he was.” (“Introduction,” by James Finley. In Merton, A Book of Hours, 16)

I wonder what Merton might say were he alive today. The phenomenal explosion of media technology functions as a gigantic amplifier of ever-changing banality and stupidity. There’s really no more ignorance under the sun than when Merton lived. It’s just more known.

The result is that people no longer know who they are. This is why dictionary.com’s word of the year is “identity.”

Lacking knowledge of their identity the wandering herd creates personas in whatever images they happen to like, and imagine their social media friends admiring. Huddles of self-congratulatory selfies text to applaud their life wisdom, little of which has been thought out. Never before in history has the meaning of non sequitur found so many instantiations.

Thanks to the twin gods Google and Siri everyone is a Renaissance polymath, an unreflective mass of omniscient beings lacking knowledge in precisely nothing. And all this without being able to think critically about anything.

T.S. Eliot wrote:

  We are the hollow men
    We are the stuffed men

    Leaning together

    Headpiece filled with straw. Alas!
    Our dried voices, when
    We whisper together
    Are quiet and meaningless
    As wind in dry grass
    Or rats’ feet over broken glass
    In our dry cellar
    Shape without form, shade without colour,
    Paralysed force, gesture without motion…

That was in 1925. By comparison Eliot’s hollow men would be viewed today as seers.

Both Merton and Eliot saw the total absence of identity coming. We’re not quite there yet. But I think I see the tipping point that will take American humanity over the abyss and into the unhuman. Welcome to the Book of Revelation.

That’s the point of the Zombie Apocalypse, right? Bodies without souls, with hopefully some remnant still alive to revolt against the masses.