Mom Moments

Thank you to my guest writer, JM.

Mom Moments… I would have to say that I have had them… Still have them.. And will continue to have them until my time on earth is finished. First of all, I have to tell you that I am not a mom. I am a dad and recently became a grandfather. Ok, now that I have your attention, let me try to explain.
Even though myself, or men in generally considered mothers. Men have been taking on the “Motherly Role”. Some are really into it. Also like the 1983 Michael Keaton Movie Mr. Mom.
If you have seen the movie, then you may know what I mean.
I don’t want to ruin it for anyone that has never seen it yet but, if you watch it… You may find it funny but also truthful in a way.
The husband by tradition is considered the bread-winner of the family. He makes the money and the wife stays home to take care of the children. Until, he loses his job and cannot find work. However, the wife can and does and soon is taking on the role as the bread-winner and the husband is now in control of the housework and taking care of the children. The movie shows that there are two sides of the parent’s job which is responsible for. Often times, movies can mirror true life.
I know some families in that position right now. The mother is the one working and the husband is the one taking care of business at the house. Also, I know of some families where there is no father/husband and the mother must take on the “Fatherly Role”.

Times have definetly changed. I remember growing up that the man took care of thing’s around the home, repaired the car and worked to bring home money for bills and groceries.
Now women are doing that. Some that I know are doing quite well at it.

Let me say that I’m not opposed to the trading of positions… I just find it funny on how some circumstances can force the opposite sex to see how the other does and have to do.

As I have pointed out previously, I am a man. I thought my life was in control. No matter what happened, I would still be the same person that I have always been. I would always be in charge. Like the comedian Bill Cosby once said, “I was once in charge, I don’t know when I lost it, or how I lost it. All I remember is I once had it.” Guy’s, think about this for a moment… When your alone with your child/children, “How many times have he/she called you Mom? If it has not happened yet… Believe me, it will.

What Bill Cosby said made sense to me. I could whole-heartily relate to what he said. I never thought I would push a baby stroller, change a diaper and use words like “potty” or “poopie”. Then my life changed when I became a father. Ever since then, it has been a non-stop adventure. I know that it will continue to be the adventure now with a new grandchild. I also have to look forward to more adventures when my son become a parent himself.

Just to let you know, I am speaking from experience. I used to work. Had a job with good income. My family was doing well. Then, an old Army injury resurfaced and now I am Mr. Mom. The only difference is that my wife is still at her same job when we were both working.
But now, I’m the one at home doing the “Motherly Role”. I’m the one that gets up early (while my wife sleeps in) and gets our son up and ready for school. (Good thing he’s in high school – only 4 more years).

Then she gets up and goes to work while I’m at home doing the laundry, doing the dishes, That’s one thing different when I was younger. Me or my sister was the dishwasher.  And do whatever I can outside.
I guess that’s the only way I feel that I still feel like I’m the man of the house and have “some control”.

Yes, men and women are totally different but, there are only a few differences that separate us from one another. The physical side is obvious but what we, as mom’s and dad’s, often overlook is the ability, sacrifice, and perseverance that we endure when we are raising our children.

I would just like to say in closing that if any guys out there happen to find themselves in the position of Mr. Mom? Don’t take it so seriously. Just take it as it comes, enjoy the adventure. Perhaps you may see what your significant other has done or has put up with and appreciate what she does when your not at home being the bread-winner. Who knows? You may find out something about the mother of your children and something about yourself as well.